You are not comparing equivalent values when you compare DandD versus football. Though you strive for a sense of balance it is clear that you weigh in favor of the socialite.

How much is too much(inordinate)? Anything beyond the occasional indulgence according to you. You might say very similar things about liquor or smoking. A bad thing that won’t hurt you so long as you limit it to just a little bit. You clearly imply that it is a moderately permissable vice rather than the foundation of a social life or lifestyle.
For you there seems to be nothing in between “to the exclusion of everything else” and “occassionally during your leisure time”

Presumably this occasional indulgence is kept well out of sight and away from the public eye. This is what I can’t help but extrapolate from your use of ‘leisure time’, ‘release/escape.’

You do not explicitly say so, but your tone strongly suggests that DandD is at best a closet activity to be concealed out of a healthy sense of shame.
It does not occur to you that DandD or any other activity associated with nerdliness could lead to their own social circles and their own sources of status.
What then is inordinate? Football players are expected to spend more time and effort on football than they do in school. They receive praise for doing so.
I would point out that your standards are heavily skewed. Bias is of course unavoidable. I will be the first to say that it is not my aim to be impartial on this blog. However, we should at least be aware of where we stand.

I think most of us want a mate with whom we are compatible. If introverts are drawn to the pickup scene, it is an understandable reaction to a lifestyle of involuntary celibacy. In such a lifestyle, actually finding a compatible companion seems so distant as to be beyond hope. Promiscuity is all that appears to remain.
I’ve spent years in that place and I’m glad to be finally be out of it.

But, for most of my life I have encountered a relentless barrage of women who saw me as an untouchable because of my lack of congruency with the larger society.
Perhaps later in life, many subtle people eventually manage to get a partner, after 10-15 years of involuntary celibacy/unsatisfactory relationships. I would suppose many others are not so lucky.
It is not right to forget or dismiss years of troubles as soon as life finally does go right against the odds.

And I must pose the question: have the former prom queens suddenly changed from the precedent established by their younger life or have they noticed that many of these previously untouchable men now have impressive certificates and positions with the official stamp of the larger society.

The main point is to demonstrate that there is nothing inherently wrong or inferior about the nerdy adopted culture and interests of social outcasts.

You have vastly misunderstood me if you think I’m saying it’s a women’s place to serve the stud his drinks and do it quickly and submissively!
What I’m saying is that if the circumstances were changed, women would value a nerd for his skills and social allegiances rather than reject him outright.

There is a narrow segment of the female population who do like nerdy outcasts, but the vast majority do not.
Perhaps not all women prefer the guys with highest social prestige. However, this generally holds true. It’s just how our human nature works.

Introverts care about belonging and having a place where they feel accepted just like anyone else. It’s the standards of the oppressive accepted society they don’t much care about.

It’s hard to have a complex, fulfilling relationship with a girl if you can’t ‘get’ her first.
Also you should try to see from the viewpoint of a guy in this case.
As a girl, you can expect to be approached. Guys have to go out and ‘get’ themselves girls. As such, guys don’t have the luxury of being as selective as girls, unless of course they have very high social prestige.

You misunderstand my intent:
My meaning is that the divergent path tends to be inferior from the conventional perspective.
You would be mistaken to suppose that is my personal opinion.

Absolution describes in this context a different concept than you are used to. I have elaborated on it in other posts. I will hyperlink it to the definition.