It’s not my intent to write this whole blog to be broadly philosophical. I like giving it a personal, more emotional touch.
And I realize that if I do so, I inevitably say things that might offend or otherwise not perfectly coincide with other people’s life experience and world views.
And I’m fine with that.
I’m glad you can still get value out of what I have to say even if you disagree on some things. After all, I figure the probability of someone coming here and agreeing about every single thing is very small.

Some of my other blogs, such as 6 Heretic’s Way, are much more focused on exploring ideas with very little talk on the personal level.

Not all introverts are into D&D, Magic the Gathering, Star Trek, etc. — I’m sure you realize this yet there is often no distinction made between the different “types” of introverts, who are surely as diverse as any group of people. (Not to mention that not all nerds are introverted.) I would consider myself introverted yet I don’t find most science fiction interesting in the least and consider it cheap and unpoetic (except for stuff like Solaris). My roommate can’t stand anime and unless it’s steak kabob or a video game, is not interested in anything Japanese. Your posts are often very personal and individualized and not always broadly philosophical; I think everyone should remember this. However as I said, you do have some sharp insights and you’ll have to forgive me if this comes off as nitpicking.

You are not comparing equivalent values when you compare DandD versus football. Though you strive for a sense of balance it is clear that you weigh in favor of the socialite.

How much is too much(inordinate)? Anything beyond the occasional indulgence according to you. You might say very similar things about liquor or smoking. A bad thing that won’t hurt you so long as you limit it to just a little bit. You clearly imply that it is a moderately permissable vice rather than the foundation of a social life or lifestyle.
For you there seems to be nothing in between “to the exclusion of everything else” and “occassionally during your leisure time”

Presumably this occasional indulgence is kept well out of sight and away from the public eye. This is what I can’t help but extrapolate from your use of ‘leisure time’, ‘release/escape.’

You do not explicitly say so, but your tone strongly suggests that DandD is at best a closet activity to be concealed out of a healthy sense of shame.
It does not occur to you that DandD or any other activity associated with nerdliness could lead to their own social circles and their own sources of status.
What then is inordinate? Football players are expected to spend more time and effort on football than they do in school. They receive praise for doing so.
I would point out that your standards are heavily skewed. Bias is of course unavoidable. I will be the first to say that it is not my aim to be impartial on this blog. However, we should at least be aware of where we stand.

I think most of us want a mate with whom we are compatible. If introverts are drawn to the pickup scene, it is an understandable reaction to a lifestyle of involuntary celibacy. In such a lifestyle, actually finding a compatible companion seems so distant as to be beyond hope. Promiscuity is all that appears to remain.
I’ve spent years in that place and I’m glad to be finally be out of it.

But, for most of my life I have encountered a relentless barrage of women who saw me as an untouchable because of my lack of congruency with the larger society.
Perhaps later in life, many subtle people eventually manage to get a partner, after 10-15 years of involuntary celibacy/unsatisfactory relationships. I would suppose many others are not so lucky.
It is not right to forget or dismiss years of troubles as soon as life finally does go right against the odds.

And I must pose the question: have the former prom queens suddenly changed from the precedent established by their younger life or have they noticed that many of these previously untouchable men now have impressive certificates and positions with the official stamp of the larger society.