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By: Paporpisen

Paporpisen — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 06:46:15 +0000

I love this post. Thanks!

By: unclegluon

unclegluon — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 22:34:27 +0000

Your typical extrovert is very like a kid tapping incesssantly on the glass in an aquarium or reptile house. He thinks: How stupid and boring the creature in the cage must be if it neglects to entertain me on cue!

The creature inside, already desensitized to glass tapping blithely ignores the noise. It stays completely motionless. Not even a twitch.
Something about this is torture to the impatient extrovert psyche. Their need to be acknowledged and have their sense of worth constantly validated will not allow them to accept such treatment, not even from an animal.
We introverts can’t stay motionless like that tropical lizard or snake because the extroverts are in the cage with us.

Every time an extrovert comes tapping we have to stir ourselves and put on just enough of a show to satisfy them and send them moving on to the next exhibit. We wouldn’t want to entertain them too much or else they’d not only stick around, they’d call in their buddies too, once again just like the kids at the zoo.

By: cb

cb — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 14:00:25 +0000

I’ve had loud people ask me some pretty outrageous questions, and when I was younger I was afraid to snub those people OR bore them so I instead would answer with ridiculous joking answers. To “Did you get a raise?” I’d answer, “Oh yes, in fact they tripled my salary!” Nowadays I think the short, boring, honest answer that offers no leads to further questioning is a brilliant way to go.

With people in power, if they question about my weekend or something like that, I just say I did a lot of family things. Soon their eyes will glaze over and they think, “Dependable little employee. Pretty boring, but serviceable.”

By: Banana Mango

Banana Mango — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 01:42:46 +0000

Brilliant. What I want to be is socially accepted, yet left alone. This seems an excellent way of going about that.

By: unclegluon

unclegluon — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 17:27:18 +0000

My apologies, then, blanket. I mistook your intent. I’ve been approached in that way a few too many times by extroverts.

There will be further breaks in the regularity of my posting in the near future. If I seem to have a regular pattern, it’s because I’ve been fortunate enough to have free time over the last couple months.

If I haven’t posted here in awhile, this isn’t my only internet project.
My central hub that links to everything is at:
http://www.gluontheferengi.com

By: blanket

blanket — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 15:05:36 +0000

*June,obviously.

By: blanket

blanket — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 15:04:46 +0000

no ,fellow introvert! i just asked because your last post was on the 25th of July and i couldn’t recall you not posting for such a long time.

By: unclegluon

unclegluon — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 20:51:06 +0000

Snowqueen,

You’re definitely right that one of the best ways to defuse the situation is simply to get the extrovert to talk about themself. It doesn’t change the fact that you’re kind of a strange ‘quiet’ person in their eyes, but it’s better than most of the alternatives.

By: unclegluon

unclegluon — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 20:40:36 +0000

‘hey are you ok?’

Wow!

A classic loaded question by which the asker strongly implies that I am mentally disturbed or unstable. I love it!

Also comes across as rather patronizing but if someone calls you on it you can say you were just expressing genuine concern.

It’s just that sort of social mastery that tends to elude me.