This is just someone trying to set down some basic rules to live by that are acceptable to both parties. In other words, a compromise.

You’ve tried to depict this as a case of the squeaky wheel getting the grease.
This reflects typical extroverted thinking: an attempt to negotiate = complaining. Complaining = a manipulative ploy to out-assert your competitor and get what you want at their expense.

What does an introvert offer in return for fair treatment?: They’ll happily leave you alone and do as little as possible to interfere in your business. They just wanted to be left in peace in the first place.

It comes as a shock to some because most every main stream channel of communication has a strong extrovert bias.

I don’t think the typical extrovert bias proposes that introverts are ‘bad people,’ just that they are the Incorrect type of people.

You will probably find the inverse to be true where the introvert views rule.

Every group has its orthodoxy.

And every orthodoxy implicitly defines the heterodox.

It sounds to me like they might be a little messier than you are and you’ve repeatedly tried to impose your sense of order on them. They may perceive you as nagging. I don’t get the vibe from you that you’ve compromised with them on house duties but that you’ve taken it on yourself to decide what’s good for the house.

Your implied main argument: “Other extroverts would agree with my definition of what constitutes a nice house, therefore, the three of you should defer to me.”
How that sounds to them is: “I’ve declared social majority rule. I call the shots around here.”

To those introverts, avoidance is compromise. What they are saying through their actions: “Even if you’re not our favorite person on earth: You do your thing, we’ll do ours.”
Compromise doesn’t mean they have to be your buddies or that they have to entertain your houseguests. It does mean that they shouldn’t interfere with your business regardless of their personal feelings and they hold up their end of the bargain by withdrawing to their quarters.
From their perspective you are breaching the compromise by trying to involve them in your stuff.

As often happens in introvert/extrovert situations, their avoidance behavior has triggered the opposite reaction they were looking for. Their reflex: escalate avoidance behaviors, as the original avoidance behaviors don’t seem to have gotten the point across.
They likely feel they are shouting out their feelings to you loud and clear and feel frustration that you do not understand. It is not likely that they will ever directly confront you. More likely, they will resort to more passive aggressive behaviors and wonder why you just don’t get it.

And let’s face it: in your eyes they are immature, ‘fragmented’ people with no confidence. Just as you have been reading their body language, they are constantly watching yours.
Introverts are used to receiving contempt: they actively look for the telltale signs. Rest assured that you are broadcasting your true feelings.

Whatever the causes,

It seems some introverts actually managed to form a social bloc.
You have ended up as the odd one out and gotten a tiny taste of how those introverts feel every time they leave that house and enter your world.(This is why they only leave when they must)

The introverts might not be overly sympathetic because they may have been repeatedly trodden on and excluded by people with personality traits similar to yours. As a result they may not easily like or trust you.

They may even take some pleasure in walking on you, excluding you, and watching you squirm. I’m not saying that what they might be doing is by any means angelic, but in their eyes, they are just returning the favor.

I like my privacy and my own things, but I do like to go out, get drunk and be social, chatty and listen to music. I currently live in a house with three introverts who are unwilling to compromise with me and they do all they can to just avoid me. Their avoidant behaviour makes me extremely uncomfortable as they are always keeping to themelves. Any action that I try to make to break this barrier and to ACTUALLY befriend these people is just turned against me and they avoid me even more.

Every time I have people over, even if its just 1 or 2 friends, my roommates either hide themselves away or they pretend not to be bothered, but I can see from the look on their faces and just their body language that they are upset. I find that its the other way around as well… I respect their privacy, but they’re just too touchy about everything.. I think a lot of introverts just need to stop being so fucking touchy and uptight.

They like to say that they’re introverted and enjoy being alone, but my one roommate constantly talks to people online and rarely speaks to me in person. Its like as soon as I enter the room I have silently become the Antagonist to the entire household. It drives me nuts. I like quiet, and I like maintaining a nice home.. None of these people feel it their need to WORK TOGETHER to maintain the householld. They want to deal with their stuff, and their stuf only. Public parts of the house, like the cleanliness of the houses’ floors, never get done because ‘its not their mess.’

This article is very true in many aspects, but I feel like a lot of introverts are just fragmented people that need to grow up and muster up CONFIDENCE in who they are.. especially to the people they’re fucking living with. At heart I am an introvert, but I grew up and got more mature.. I let people see who I am, and I did it by getting over my anxiety and all those tiny immature little inhibitions

I suppose the good thing about my situation is that we live in an apartment-style dorm, which means we both have our own rooms, but share the kitchen, living room, and bathroom. That way, I at least have SOME degree of sanctuary from all the drama. I say “some” because she always brings her friends over, and they stay at our place until the freakin’ break of dawn – I am not kidding. Her group of friends crash at our place at like 10am in the morning, and stay here until like 3 or 4am in the morning. Even with my door closed, it doesn’t make that much of a difference because my roommate and her friends are LOUD and chatty, and I can clearly hear the noise through my door. My roommate has turned our living room and kitchen into an entertainment center for her friends, complete with frequent dinner parties and everything. And she has never even had the courtesy to inform me about when her friends will be crashing here – EVER. They just show up out of the blue, and I’m always like “WTF?? AGAIN??”

But this is no place to complain, and according to my situation, it would be wise of me to seek out a new roommate. But I can’t…no one is available, and I really don’t think there are any more extra dorm rooms available, seeing how it is already the middle of the school year. Plus, she and I hate each other, so trust me, all the talking between us that would be required if we were to seek “roommate mediation” from the RA, is completely out of the question.

I really don’t know what to do…I guess I just have to endure this hell until the end of the school year…hope I come out in one piece…

An introvert who gets an extrovert room mate has been cornered in their last refuge. Some sort of place an introvert has mastery over, even a 5X10 rectangle is the only thing that makes living in an extrovert society tolerable!